Seeking Moms with 2 Kids at Least 5 Years Apart

are you kidding? mom time? adult time? it never ends even after they leave the house. at least thats how it has been for me. but maybe its my fault. becasue i made my children my life but it has been so rewarding. we had so many plans for things to do when our youngest left for college this summer. but we spent all summer going back and forth to see him and getting him settled. i also babysit my other sons baby. i have him a lot because they are separated and he was a preemie. up until two months ago we had him all the time and daddy would come visit . since then we have been asking his other granma to watch him some evenings and my husband signed us up for a dance class. i never would have thought he'd want to learn. i used to do a lot of ballroom dancing with my daddy when i was younger. we had a standing date once a monthand would get dressed up and go dance. my husbnad has two left feet so we have never really daced much but i thoughtit was so sweet that he wanted to learn. it is free at a local community college. we are having a blast. i look forward to every tuesday evening and on the weekends we got to the city to practice our dancing. but while my kids were ins chool. i voluneered for a lot of school stuff and met other moms in the same situation. it was mostly for sports stuff because my husband coached. the year before my youngest started high school i started volunteering as athletic trainer for football cross country wrestling and track. we organized fudnraiser and out of that a few of us moms started meeting for coffee. the coffe clatch we called it. we met a one of our homes for an hour once a week. it was usually sunday afternoons. the daddys' watched the kids . that was the best time because we acrtually had adult conversations. we took several trips together out of town. we called them giggle trips. the ost memorable was one year after the state wreslting meet. we had beenin phoenix for 3 days . it was over on saturday night and the kids and the dads went home with the kids. our group rented a cabinin the white mountains. we went there for 3 days. there was 7 of us. we each cooked one meal so we got to try out our adult food recipes. we didnt do much. a lot of sleeping and napping , we had a lady from beauty control come up and s do a margarita spa one day. it was awesome. ( dont buy the stuff its expensive) we did some hiking in the woods but mostly we jsut rested. that took a lot of plannign and saving but it was totally worth it. and we all figured out who we really liked and who we didint. you know how it is when a bunch of women get together, the claws were out for a couple of hours. another trip we did was a slumber party. we rented two adjoining rooms and had an adult slumbber party. that one was courtesty of the football players at the end of the year. the kids delivered pizza and sodas which was a really nice surpise. tghe next mornign we all went to breakfast in our pjs and lounged around the pool during the day. we also do a camping trip every year on veterans day. it is moslty families of the kids we coached. we go to the chiricahua mountains and take horses. we volunteer for the forest service and take three days to clean trails and hang out. one of the parents has an old timey chuckwagon and we all look forward to watching him cook in the dutch ovens. we have all kinds of games throughout the day and at night the musicians in our group play and we have singalongs.

I have 2 children they are 18 months apart. We get alot of adult time. We just have to be creative. I never know when my husband gets home so we eat dinner with or with out him. If he gets home and I am done eating and the kids are still eating we will turn on the tv say mommy and daddy need some private talk time or just sneak out of the room. They are distracted we get to have a quickie.

My children spend the night at Grammys, Dudas, and my SIL house. We are beginning to allow my son to stay with my BIL once in a blue moon since he is 4 1/2 and can communicate better and is potty trained. So we go to dinner, movies and come home to an empty house.

Weekend nap times are great even though my son is at that stage were he doesnt sleep. His rule you have quiet time until your sister is awake. So he has to stay in his room and lay down or play quietly. We go in our room or the office room and lock the door.

We also try and make a date once a month even if the kids cant sleep over some where. They are usually in bed when we get home. We try and get the sitter out as soon as possible. I wake him some night when I cant sleep he wakes me some nights when he gets to bed late.

We have movie and game nights. The kids go to bed at 8pm. Once they are alseep we pop in a movie or sit at the table and play cards or board games.

S.,
We have two kids, nearly 3 years apart and you just have to get creative. If you can, get the kids to bed early (yea right!) If you can, try to meet for lunch during the day, or try to wake up early. When my son was first born he would wake up early for feedings. I would feed him then put him back to bed...then wake up my husband for some adult time! Even though it meant waking up early, he really didn't mind. It's tough, but it can be done, trust me.

I have 4 kids but mine are all 3 years apart except the first two. As for adult time..... that is when the kids are in bed, gone to spend a little time with grandma, or go to church with grandma..... adult time in otherwise close to non-existant. You might want to see about making a date night.... having someone watch the kids and you and your husband go out for a date... (movie, dinner, and whatever else...)

My kids are 7 years apart...I never really liked sleep overs, but, when my daughter got old enough (my son is 7 years older than she is) I jumped at the first offer she got!! I made sure that my son got farmed out also. It sounds terrible, but, we so needed our alone time together. There were times when they did go to bed early, and we had some privacy. My schedule at work gave me two week days off, and we would "meet" for "lunch" at home! (my husband was self employed). It did get difficult at times when they had school vacations, but, we still seemed to manage to get at least 2 alone times per week. It was a very important part of our lives, and kept us woven together so to speak. We also had a travel trailer that seemed to need cleaning quite often. So, be imaginative too!! Good luck and REALLY take time for yourselves...even if it is only 1/2 an hour at a time. At least you get to reconnect and be together. Good luck.

My children are 11, 7 and almost 3. Up until about 1 year ago I would have said "adult time" what is that? LOL I still do say that most of the time but my husband and I have been trying to make it a point to do date night once ever few months. Not nearly enough though. On weekends we still have the youngest go to bed at his normal time, the girls can stay up later but in their rooms watching a movie or something quiet and my husband and I will sit in the hot tub and just injoy the quiet together or talk about everything that happened over the week that we have not yet had a chance to talk about. Its hard to fit in time for just us. By the time they get put in bed on weekdays I am so tired I am in bed the minutes I turn their lights out. Good Luck in your search. Star with date nights, it really is a mood lifter to get out.

I have 2 kids that are 5 years apart. My oldest just turned 8 and my youngest will be 3 in February. My husband and I do the bedtime routine together starting around 7:30 with bath/shower for kids and getting them ready for bed and we usually close the door to our oldest boy's bedroom somewhere around 8:30 or so. After that we take the time between 8:30 and 10:30 to talk. play games, spend time together. We used go to bowling league once a week, but had to drop it as we could no longer afford it with the gas and food prices these days. I do get adult time when I go to my Tae Kwon Do class 3 nights a week. My husband stays home with the kids and I go. I joined it about a year and a half after my oldest boy started taking Tae Kwon Do in the kids class. It is very fun and great exercise. Anyhow, if you can find a sitter for a few hours and just go out to dinner and a movie maybe once a month and then maybe find time after the kids go to bed during the week or weekend to spend time together. Take showers together in the morning and talk while you get dressed in your room, maybe wake up early a few days a week and get a quickie before showering together, or just hold each other. I hope this helps a little. But for adult time, you take it when you can, or make time for it in the evenings.

D.

I have a 5 year old, 10 year old, 15 year old, 18 year old, and a 22 year old. Adult time comes in many forms. Just yesterday, I jumped in the shower with my husband and it was nice to have one on one with no interruptions on our conversation. Becoming creative is its own reward and if your husband is game can be quite fun. Enjoy it all...it really goes quickly! God Bless.

I have 3 kids 13, 8, and 5. I have to say our adult time are mostly weekends or when the kids are in school. I am very fortunate to have my husband be home because we have a home business that we run together. I do make time to go to workout classes in the evening to meet others like in Pilates classes etc. My husband will take care of the kids while I am gone. We also make it a point to have a date night at least once a week. I think you really have to make the time to do things. It really does make you a better mother, when you make the time:)

M.
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