J.R.
Hi B.,
I am so sorry for your families loss. Nothing ever prepares you to lose a child. In June 2003 we lost one of our twin daughters. I was 28 weeks pregnant and had gone for what had become routine bimonthly ultrasounds with our perinatologist.( Our pregnancy was complicated because our girls were identical and shared a placenta and were not equally sharing blood, nourishment, etc) Anyways in a matter of minutes, as I'm sure is the case with your sister, our world was shattered. We were told one of our daughters was in distress and we would need to deliver immediately. We lost our daughter Emma later that night and Jillian had a long NICU stay, but by the grace of God is healthy and happy today.
The 2 pieces of advice I would offer is to be there not only tonight for your sister but for many years to come and let her do the talking and just listen and also to really take in what is happening all around you. The night my girls were born I was in shock and had very little memory of the night. Several months later I really needed to know a minute by minute account of what happened to help me grieve. So pay enough attention to details to be able to give her that if she needs it. My prayers are with you.