Am I Having Anger Issues?

Sounds like you went from one abusive relationship to another. Your mom is still abusing you in a way by what she is telling you. What she said about you being single for the rest of your life if you were to divorce is simply not true. You need to get out of this marriage for the sake of your child and yourself. Especially if he refuses to get the help that he needs. He's the one with an anger problem.

Sure it's scary to be a single mom but mom's do it all the time. It doesn't have to be as scary as you think. I've known some brave hard working and stable single moms. I've been one. It's not easy but it's doable. It's healthier for the children to be with a strong single mom than it is for them to be in a house full of hurt and anger.

I'm sorry you are in this situation. Wish you all the best.

WOW I mean WOW!!!!!

Sweetheart this is not your fault. Your Mom is abusive --- Your husband is abusive. GET OUT NOW -- LEAVE. Go to a shelter and get help. While he is at work pack a bag or two for you and your child and go. Do not look back or go back. You can do this.

I did.

I hate to say this but unless he will get couciling you need to get out!!! Your son will grown up thinking that behavior is normal. Don't listen to your mom she sounds like she's got lots of problems of her own.

Ok.
What does 'having a family' mean to you?
Does it mean giving pain to each other verbally or otherwise?
For most people, the answer is 'Heck NO!".
You are perfectly capable of having a happy family.
Just NOT WITH THESE PEOPLE (your Mom and your husband).
You KNOW your Mom abuses and drags you down.
So when she tells you you will always be alone tell her "GOOD! Let's start with you. Out you go! Buh Bye!".
Divorce hubby - he never expects you will carry through with it - he thinks he has you beaten down and under his thumb.
Stop being afraid you will be alone.
Being alone is not the worst thing there is.
And once you know who you are out of a relationship, you'll be ready for a new functional relationship with new functional non abusive people.
Talk to a women s shelter.
Form up your escape plan.
Execute it and walk tall and proud.
You can do this.

you may be a pain in the butt to live with but no one has the right to touch you physically or verbally, in any way shape of form no matter how much you ask for it.
ask yourself, do silly things make you upset? little things? if yes, you may want to talk to someone and start getting on meds to help you remain calm and collected. that is the part you need to take care of. for you.

Does your mom have Narcissistic Personality Disorder? I see a lot of signs here in what you are telling us.

Check this out. http://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/mothers-wit...

Yes, you might have anger issues...but I don't think that's ALL that is going on here.

And, for goodness' sake, if you do think your mom has NPD, DO NOT tell her. She'll flip out.

It is not your fault that he is hitting your or being emotionally abused. One morning when taking your kid to school dont go to school and leave. Sadly do not go to yoru parents and use cash only. There are places that will help you like catholic charities. If you are stubborn then use that stubborness and anger and take your kid and go

I just want to say I'm sorry you have been treated like this and I hope you read through all these great responses and reach out to someone to help you through this. You deserve better and so does your son.

Please stop listening to your mOm and husband and find someone that supports you and can help you through this. If you don't have a friend you can turn to, or co-worker, call one of the hotlines. They will help! :)

Perhaps you rise to anger so easily bc your mother used to beat you! And now you have an abusive husband! I'd be po'd too. I highly suggest counceling so you can get a professional, 3rd party opinion of what is your fault and what isn't. Think your husband would go with you? if not, it may be time to leave. Not sure what there is worth staying for. Is he a good father? Was he like this before you married him? I hope this is a woman's crisis center near you. That might be a good first step. See if they can offer help to get you started on whatever road is best. Good luck.

Reading your question, I see my daughter. She is very much like her dad in that she will argue about stuff and fight back though not physically and it is with family. She does not react so strongly to others. She is not abused though. We do not hit her or lock her up though my husband does react a little too strongly to her. But where you are now is what I am afraid of for her. Right now, she is 13 and has a boyfriend that is a really nice kid, very quiet. He has even told me that he is a member of a "group" or movement that does not do drugs or smoke and waits until marriage--which is awesome by me. I worry about what will happen if they breakup. They are usually on our front porch ot sitting in the frontroom or at a friends house so I am not too worried about him telling her he loves her so she should have sex or anything like that. I plan to look into counseling for her when she is older and does not know how to handle things that life throws at her. Right now she gets into her arts and has started animation on her Ipod. You need to go to counseling or talk to someone who can help you see your worth and how to handle your emotions (anger). You say yourself, though indirectly, that you have anger issues. And I agree with others that since your mom abused you you see it as okay that your husband does. But you also say it is getting worse. now is the time to take action. Do it for yourself. And do it for your son. Becoming a single parent can be scary. I am not one but I know many, whether from the start or from divorce or death. It is hard. Being a parent is hard. Your mom saying you will be single forever is just another abusive tactic to keep you down.